Lola Young’s I’m Only F**king Myself is a fearless plunge into self-sabotage, and “why do i feel better when i hurt you?” is its raw, beating heart. The South London star, who broke through with 2024’s viral “Messy” from This Wasn’t Meant For You Anyway, crafts alt-pop that’s as gritty as it is soulful, blending indie rawness with hip-hop swagger. This track, with lines like “I throw words like punches at you,” lays bare the messy thrill of toxic love, echoing the album’s chaotic honesty. Produced by Manuka and SOLOMONOPHONIC, it pairs haunting melodies with sharp lyricism, much like the liberating vibe of “One Thing” or the reflective “Not Like That Anymore.”
Lola calls this record her “ode to clawing back from defeat,” and the song’s question, why pain feels good, hits that nerve. It’s relatable for anyone who’s wrestled with their darker impulses, making it a standout in her Glastonbury-debut year. Fans buzzing on social media love its unfiltered edge. Dive into the why do i feel better when i hurt you? lyrics below to feel Lola Young’s bold evolution. Join us to explore how this track fits into her 2025 takeover.
| Lead Vocals | Lola Young |
| Songwriter | Lola Young, Solomonophonic, Conor Dickinson, William Brown (Manuka) & Adrian Simon |
| Music Producer | Solomonophonic & Manuka |
| Label | Universal Records & Island Records |
| Release Date | September 19, 2025 |
| Song Language | English |
| Copyright © | Day One Music & Universal Music Group |
Lyrics of why do i feel better when i hurt you? by Lola Young
[Intro]
One, From The Go
[Verse 1]
Can We Just Get Into Bed?
‘Cause It’s Getting Hard To Hear The Things That You Said
Unless It’s Dark, I Throw Words Like Punches At You
I Like The Way They Almost Bruise
Can We Just Get Into Bed?
[Pre-Chorus]
There’s No Other Way Around It
‘Cause I Know When We Talk About It
It’s Always The Worst That We Could Do
[Chorus]
Why Do I Feel Better When I Hurt You?
Always Try To Put You In The Worst Mood
Why Do I Feel Better When I Hurt You?
Why Do I Feel Better When I Hurt You?
Always Try To Put You In The Worst Mood
Why Do I Feel Better?
Why Do I? Why Do I?
[Verse 2]
Let’s Not Pretend
We Don’t Find It Hard Just To Accept The People We Are
Throw Words Like Punches At You
Shove Tables Right Across The Room
Let’s Not Pretend
[Pre-Chorus]
Theres No Other Way Around It
‘Cause I Know That We Talk About It
It’s Always The Worst That We Could Do
Real Love, No, We Haven’t Found It
Let’s Not Even Talk About It
That’s Nearly The Worst That We Could Do
[Chorus]
Why Do I Feel Better When I Hurt You?
Always Try To Put You In The Worst Mood
Why Do I Feel Better When I Hurt You?
Why Do I Feel Better When I Hurt You?
Always Try To Put You In The Worst Mood
Why Do I Feel Better?
Why Do I? Why Do I?
[Bridge]
Ayy, Ayy, Ayy
[Outro]
Why Do I Feel Better When I Hurt You?
Always Try To Put You In The Worst Mood
Why Do I Feel Better?
